All of us want to live life to the fullest. We want to stay fulfilled and happy. We want positive interactions in our relationships with others. There is much that we can do for ourselves to help us to live well. In this post I share with you some ideas and measures that you can implement to make your life exciting, fulfilled and delightful. These measures are easy to apply and their benefits are great! When you wake up each morning you will feel fabulous, ready to face any challenges which come your way. Stay happy, stay positive and live well!
Be Yourself
Do not live your life according to how others want it to be. Live life as you wish to live it. Do not be motivated by the approval or disapproval of others. You are the only person who can give you the approval you need. Do not allow people to get you to do things in the way they think you should. Do not compare yourself with others too. Create your own standards.
Set yourself goals and work to realise these goals Write your goals down. Set yourself goals for the future, in other words, be clear about where you want to be in the future. However it is good to be flexible with these goals and to make adjustments and changes along the way. Allocate time for yourself. Be responsible for your own development and for your future. Make your own decisions; use your own judgements and take hold of your own life. Say “I’ve decided to …” and not “I have to…”
Be action oriented and therefore, take action to solve problems, implement ideas or projects and put into practice any suggestion or recommendation, instead of merely talking about it. Focus on the future and seek solutions to the present. Do not think of your past failures.
Engage in positive self-talk. If you think of yourself as someone no one likes, you will find that unconsciously you are asking people to have nothing to do with you. You will end up projecting self-consciousness in your whole demeanour and on your face. You may try very, very hard to please or you may exhibit open hostility to everyone you meet. Hence, no one will like you or even wish to have anything to do with you.
Instead you should tell yourself that you are someone others like and wish to interact with at all times. Make positive statements about yourself and the circumstances around you. For example, say, “I am intelligent”; “I am enthusiastic”; “I am organised”. Tell yourself that you are a fabulous individual with lots of potential, that you are unique and special. Think of yourself as a person of some expertise, authority, and intelligence and project this image to others in all that you do, with all the people you come into contact with, and in all situations, in both your personal and your working life. To do this you need high self-esteem and, definitely, more self-respect.
Be Inviting
The idea of being inviting is drawn from the model of Invitational Education, the chief proponent of whom is William Watson Purkey. With Invitational Education, people are considered to be able, valuable and responsible and they should be treated accordingly. There are four basic elements in Invitational Education: Trust, Respect, Optimism and Intentionality. These four elements are valuable in cultivating relationships with others.
We should establish a feeling of trust in our interactions with people and we should respect each one with whom we come into contact. In all areas of our life we should practice optimism and we should offer something beneficial in the overtures that we make to all those we meet.
Being personally inviting requires you to look after yourself. If you are not in good health, both mentally and physically, you cannot live well. Neither can you develop yourself professionally. To be mentally happy you need to cultivate your interests and hobbies, read and engage in new activities. Purkey maintains that it is important to respect yourself and your feeling. Treat yourself with the same respect that you give others.
Listen to yourself talk and stop yourself from saying negative things about yourself. In his books Purkey provides many suggestions to apply to help us to be personally inviting to ourselves.
By being personally inviting with others, Purkey states that we should take into account the feelings, wishes, and aspirations of others. To be professionally inviting to ourselves we need to attend new courses and acquire new information. By being professionally inviting to others, we learn to interact with people and to work cooperatively. Our interactions with others are positive.
Be Fulfilled
Do not allow other people to upset and worry you. Stay away from relationships that cause you unhappiness and trouble. Do not allow your problems to get you down. Look forward to living; look forward to each day. Wake up happy. Tell yourself that it is going to be a good day for you. Listen to music early in the day. Develop your talents and abilities. Help others; be friendly to people and give as much as you take from them.
Be Energised
Start your day with a nutritious meal of fruits. Drink fruit and vegetable juices. This will give you the energy you need for the day. Exercise to stimulate your body and to enhance your self-esteem. Go for a ten minute walk at lunch time. Take short breaks while you work to recharge your mind. Get eight hours of sleep.
Conclusion
I leave you with this quotation from Agatha Christie:
“I like living. I have sometimes been wildly despairing, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.”
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